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3 Steps to Overcoming Self doubt!

Every person has a list of habits and routines they trust themselves to accomplish each day. But when it comes to achieving the goals we say we really want, there’s often a lack of self-trust that they will ever be accomplished. Doubt is right under the surface.

How can you overcome self-doubt and get on track to achieve the big goals you have in mind?

It comes down to putting the proper habits in place, and creating self-discipline that drives you in the right direction.

Bestselling author H. Jackson Brown Jr. described the need for discipline this way: “Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There’s plenty of movement, but you never know if it’s going to be forward, backwards, or sideways.”

Here are three steps you can take to get unstuck and start seeing success.

Step 1: Start Small

It might seem counterintuitive that small steps will help you to achieve big goals, but it works.

That’s because making big, monumental changes all at once can seem overwhelming. Quitting cold turkey, completely changing your diet, or reorganizing your finances overnight can seem impossible.

As a result, most people don’t even start.

Small changes are easier to achieve. And each time you accomplish a small step you gain self-confidence. That confidence then empowers you to take another step. Repeated small steps create good habits that become routine.

Want to start working out? Start small. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Park your car further away to add walking time. Or download an exercise app that gradually builds your strength.

Want healthier eating habits? Take one step by starting your day with a green juice. If the idea of a juicer and prepping all those veggies seems too much, get an organic green juice powder. In 30 seconds you’ll have taken a significant step to nourish your body.

By taking small steps in the right direction, you’ll start creating the momentum you need to see real change in your life.

Step 2: Increase Mindfulness

With everything you have to do each day, it’s easy to go on autopilot as the time passes in a blur.

It’s important to accept where you are in order to get where you want to be.

Increasing your mindfulness can help. When you focus on what you’re actually doing, you’re setting the stage to make conscious choices.

Acceptance does not mean you should judge yourself harshly. It simply means consciously observing what you are doing, and how you are feeling in the moment.

Adding in just 10 minutes a day of meditation can help to focus your conscious and unconscious brain on what you really want, and make those goals easier to achieve.

Step 3: Practice

Discipline is not achieved by flipping a switch. It’s a practice that you engage in every day.

Don’t expect perfection as you start making positive changes. If you find yourself getting sidetracked, take a deep breath and start fresh the next day.

As author Carl Bard said, “Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

Your ability to pick yourself up after you fall down will train you in the art of discipline and build your self-confidence. Over time, that discipline will become an automatic habit.

With practice you’ll find yourself making real progress toward your goals.

With these three steps you can effectively venture outside your comfort zone and experience meaningful success. Start today and soon you’ll be on track to conquer self-doubt.

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Prove. Them. Wrong.

Prove them wrong.

Them- yourself, your enemies, your family, your friends, your bosses, your classmates, them.

Prove to yourself that you can accomplish your goals.

How?

Determination. Motivation. Escalation.

Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Be determined to do something different today. Wake up earlier, go to the gym, read a book. Pick one, two, or do all three, just be determined to do something different to better yourself.

 “Motivate your feet to move at the same pace as your dreams”.

Motivate yourself. How? By motivating others. Are you allowing negativity to consume your peaceful thoughts? Motivate your heart to only feel positive energy. Motivate your feet to move at the same pace as your dreams.

Escalate to a better you. Have you ever tried to walk up an escalator moving the opposite direction? It’s not impossible to reach the top, but it is twice as difficult to get to where you are going. Move in the direction that your dreams, hopes, and goals are going.

And remember..

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Seriously God? What’s Taking So Long?

Ever feel like you are doing all the ‘right’ things, saying all the ‘right’ words, feeling all the ‘right’ feelings, and praying to God for all the ‘right’ answers; Yet your not getting what you are praying for?

You find yourself working until 2 am (fulfilling your labor), drinking filtered spring water (your body is a temple), while snacking on your $3.99 a pound organic apple (let food be thy medicine), yet you cannot find success in your personal life or business?

Seriously God? What’s taking so long?

We all find ourselves at a point in our lives where we are looking for a change. Looking for someone to stretch out their hand and give us a lifeline, a net, for example. Do you think Peter knew that a miracle was about to unfold when Jesus said to him in John 21:6, “Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some [fish].”? Of course not. (And let’s be honest, if a random man, dressed in dry clothes, appeared on my boat while I was fishing, i’d be a little hesitant myself.) But the proof is not in Jesus’s words, but in the proof of his words that made Peter a believer. “When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish”. 

I know what you are thinking, “Oh please, not another analogy, that is irrelevant to how I am feeling right now…(rolls eyes)”…but hear me out. Have you ever applied prayer in a  way that changes what you are expecting into what God is expecting of you?

Believe it or not, God expects a lot from his followers. He expects us to live with peace. He expects us to be restored in his words. He expects us to aspire to be more than we have ever asked for. He expects us to yearn for him. He expects us to engage with his teachings. And he also expects us to build a relationship with him.

Yes, He expects it. You know why? Because He will never bless you with anything more than what you expect of yourself.

Oh, you were expecting some God bashing session that allows us to dwell on our failures and  blame Him, rather than look past the fail and see it for what it really is?  Not today my friend. And now that I have your unbridled attention, let get into why we are both here.

Why do you pray?

Do you pray because it is expected of you? Do you pray because Pastor Steven tells you to? Or do you pray because you believe that “Ask and you shall receive” is just a playful metaphor that Christians hashtag on twitter?

Let’s be honest, we all pray for those three reasons. Yes, even me. But let me blow your mind for a minute. Remember that 5th paragraph you read and said to yourself “Yeah, whatever. God can expect all he wants, but until I start seeing some results, this kid is on his own”. Think about those words again, just for a minute.

Peace.

Restore.

Aspire.

Yearn.

Engage.

Relate.

 

P R A Y E R.

That’s all He wants. To have Peace in our hearts, to Restore our souls, Aspire to be the person He knows you can be, Yearn for his presence, Engage yourself in His words, and build a Relationship with him.

Imagine applying those six words to your life, to your prayers, to your expectations; I suspect something just may change. Don’t you?

 

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